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What does beauty mean to you? Where is it found?
Is it in the face, the smile, the eyes? Or is it the personality, the humour, the kindness, the courage? Or is it all of that and so much more?
When I think of beauty, I see strength, courage, wisdom, and authenticity. I see a woman who loves herself unconditionally, believes in her dreams, and creates her own path in life. I see a woman who smiles with her heart.
To celebrate 30 Days Of Beauty, I asked some of the most beautiful women I know to write about what makes them beautiful, by answering one question:
What puts the YOU in beaYOUtiful?
I am very excited and honoured to be able to bring you this post today. There is so much beauty and wisdom here, and all my gratitude goes to all the amazing women who shared their beauty so authentically and openly.
Here’s what these amazing women had to say:
I am beautiful because I’m silly, laugh a lot, breakout in dance at least 5 times a day & teach my children what Joy is by example. I am beautiful because I am doing what I love & encouraging others that they can do the same. I’ve got a few businesses under my belt that did make it off the ground but they didn’t fly for very long. Even after those failings (lessons), I didn’t give up. I stitched up my wings, let them heal & took off again, creating something that brings people together in a positive & loving way. I created something that constitutes as heartwork & also provides for my family. I am beautiful because I believe in everybody. I believe that you can overcome most anything & ride the wind smiling, in the flight pattern of your choice, no matter how heavy your baggage is. I am beautiful because I trust & believe in the potency of love.
If you would have asked me this question in high school, I would have said my eyes. If you would have asked me in college, I would have said my drive. And asking myself this question now, I have a completely different answer. (Of course!)
It’s my light.
There are so many facets of a person that can make them beautiful. It can be your smile, your heart, your kind eyes, your humor … But I feel our personalities are like a river. We’re always moving, sometimes changing direction, at times rising (and falling), but at the end of it we are always there. We have the force, over time, to change rocks and the ability to carry others.
But most importantly, we sparkle in the light. We become a brighter, more inviting version of ourselves. Just like a river, it’s when people are drawn to us the most.
So next time you’re feeling down, and not-so-beautiful, remember: We always have beauty within us, but it’s our light that can change the appearance of everything around us.
I believe there are two of us within each of us. There is our Human side, which the world sees. It represents our physical experience. It is packed full of emotions, passions, hunger, dreams, and competition. A body and a mind designed to make mistakes, to learn, to grow. It is where anger, vanity, sadness, hopelessness resides.
The other side is our Spirit side. This is where pure joy and love resides. The laughter, the songs, the energy that lights up a room. It is the magnet that draws people in. The love of mother and child and best friends. Our Spirit side is our truth, our extreme knowledge and wisdom of all that is. It is forgiveness and peace. It is who we really are – the very essence of our Being.
I am BeaYOUtiful because I am aware that my Spirit side is alive within me, ALWAYS. When I tap into my Spirit, I tap into an energy of love source more powerful and more important than me, because it is connected to YOU.
For me, being beautiful is about being in love with the person you are. Self-love and self-acceptance are the two most important things when it comes to true beauty. The more you love yourself — the more beauty you possess, both inside and out.
What makes me beautiful is the fact that I accept who and what I am and do what I can to focus on the positive aspects of me. Dwelling on the negative only brings you down. Focus on what you love about yourself and your true beauty will always shine through!
Most people don’t think of beauty when they’re hot and sweaty, but I do. I’m a yogi, I practice Baptiste yoga, which is vinyasa yoga done in a 95-100 degree room. I’m slick with sweat by the time we’re ten minutes in and feeling so very powerful. It’s hard and I try so hard, this is what makes me beautiful.
How often when something is hard or it hurts do we stop? We shy away from the discomfort, we take the easier path.
For me, the motivating factor is always fear, I’m afraid it’ll hurt, I’m afraid that I can’t do it.
I’m afraid of what it will mean if I can do it.
That’s the one that always trips me up, I’m afraid of what it will mean if I actually can do it.
When you work towards something, even when it hurts, even if you’re scared, that’s such a lovely thing.
I’m beautiful because I like to ignore the voice that starts sentences with “I’m afraid…”
I’m beautiful because every time I say yes to trying, I’m saying no to self-doubt.
I’m beautiful because I choose to live with a fearless heart.
The other day I was giving some unrequested “sage mother” advice to my daughter – that kindness is the most important quality in life. When you think about it, what situation is not made better by kindness?
I think of kindness as that gentleness that allows others their own space, their own lives and frees me from judgment. It’s the choice to look for the best intentionally.
It’s coming from the soft space inside that opens to kindness like a rose opening to the sun.
I know my beauty is in my kindness, in the gentleness of my spirit, in my choice to embrace the best.
This is when I am beautiful.
The beauty industry has most people convinced that if we don’t use special creams and pricey injections to ward off the aging process, we could all shrivel up like raisins in the blink of an eye. But I think those who say “beauty is only skin deep” are wrong.
Natural, ageless beauty is actually soul deep. We age from the inside out, not the outside in. Science has proven that people who are genuinely happy live longer, more fulfilling lives.
To boost my own happiness, I have learned to appreciate the beauty and blessings in each day – even the hard ones. In fact, I think I’ve become so good at celebrating the beauty surrounding me that it’s translated into seeing the beauty in me. Every laugh line has become a badge of honor, every gray hair a treasured souvenir from this journey I’m on. Each morning, I wake up to the ultimate gift: another 24 hours to live this beautiful life. Turns out the Fountain of Youth is right there in my own backyard.
I believe my vulnerability makes me beautiful.
Throughout my life, I have spent a lot of time obsessing over the things I felt were wrong with me. I never felt pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough, talented enough, or good enough in general. Everything I did was an attempt to make people like me.
One day I realized that this pursuit of other people’s approval was precisely what hindered me from earning my own. My neediness and desperation made it hard to respect myself, and at the end of the day, that’s what I really wanted.
I wanted to believe that I could put my head on my pillow at night knowing I am a good, valuable person and I deserve the peace of mind that only I can give me.
I wanted to love myself, knowing fully that I have darkness and light within me—that I have strengths and weaknesses, struggles and successes. I wanted to accept my humanity, even while growing and improving a little every day.
And I wanted to authentically share myself to hopefully help other people do the same. That I am willing to be seen in good days and bad, in strength and vulnerability, makes me feel both proud and beautiful.
I feel beautiful
I feel beautiful as I listen to the whispers of my heart,
slow down, breathe deeply, savoring all of life.
In this moment nothing else exists
but the beauty of everything, everywhere.
I feel beautiful when I understand my purpose,
my desire to create, to serve, to do something
for me, for you, for all of humanity, for now, forever,
empowered by the light that lies within us all.
I feel beautiful when I quiet my mind and
as a peacemaker, I behold a compassionate vision
for millions and billions and trillions
stretching to infinity and limitless horizons.
I feel beautiful when we are connected heart-to-heart.
I see your soul through the window of my eyes.
I sense your joy, I see your delight,
engulfed in the magnificence of now and always.
I feel beautiful when I reflect your
inherent beauty and goodness
and emerge with you into ‘I Am’
lost in the dance, experiencing the extraordinary,
knowing that we never walk alone.
Come as you are to the bounty of love.
We are in full blossom now, we are infinite.
Deep into our souls we travel,
A radical and social transformation,
spinning together on our illusionary planet.
May we all feel beautiful.
Now that you have read about what makes these women beautiful, we pass the talking stick to you.
Leave a comment answering this question:
What puts the YOU in beaYOUtiful?
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Shine Your Light,